Screening against dysfunction

Multiple circumstances have made me reflect on potential behavioral indicators of people I might be able to maintain healthy relationships with... I came up with a set of brief questions to be more intentional about who to spend time with.

General observations

• Can they maintain friendships longer than five years?
• Do their plants thrive? (if they have plants)
• How do their pets behave? (if they have pets, e.g. in cats: ¹⁻²)
• Is there always drama, always a crisis, always someone who wronged them?
• Do they have any middle ground? Is everything extreme?

More personal reflections

• Do I feel exhausted after normal conversations?
• Am I walking on eggshells?
• Am I managing their emotions before they even express them?